別れる理由[AB-Radio#47] Vol.277

Name: 別れる理由[AB-Radio#47] Vol.277
Channel: ABTVnetwork

Finding the Perfect Break Up Excuse

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どうも皆様いかがお過ごしでしょうか。
Hello everyone, how are you all doing?
今週もやって参りました。
It's that time again this week.
毎週月曜日配信のABTV ネットワークラジオ、 MC の実は猫も花粉症になる猫犬田実彦です。
Transmitted to you every Monday on ABTV Network Radio, even cats get allergies like this MC,
このラジオでは視聴者の皆様から寄せられたお悩みを
On this radio program, we take the troubles sent in by our listeners,
私、猫犬田実彦がにゃんわりと解決しちゃいます。
and I, Asahiko Nekoinuda resolve them gently, meow.
それでは早速、今週のお悩みを紹介しましょう。
Well then, let's quickly get to this week's worry.
相談です。
I need to consult with you.
今別れたい彼女がいるんですけど、どうやって別れを切り出せばいいでしょうか？
I have a girlfriend that I want to break up with, but how can I bring up the subject?
彼女が別に嫌いなだけでなく、高校が別れたので、
It's not that I especially dislike her, but we go to different high schools
向こうが寂しいだろうと思うので別れたいと思うのですが、どうですか？
and I think that she's lonely, so I think I want to break up with her; what do you think?
よかったらアドバイス下さい。
If you don't mind, may I have some advice?
実は、このお悩みに対して視聴者の方からアドバイスが寄せられましたので、
As a matter of act, we had some advice come in about this worry from our listeners so
ご紹介させていただきます。
let's introduce them.
寂しくなるなら、今まで以上に愛してあげればいいんですよ。
If she's going to be lonely, you should just give her more love than you do even now.
それに、あっちが寂しがってるのかな？
Moreover, are you lonely?
寂しがってないのなら、それは自分の自己満ですよ。
If she's not lonely, that's your own self-satisfaction.
なるほど、それではもう一方紹介しましょう。
I see; OK then, let's introduce one more.
寂しいと思っているかもしれないと思えるということは、
Thinking that she might be lonely,
あなたがその女性のことを大事に思っている証拠ではないでしょうか。
is proof that you really care about this girl, isn't it?
まず別れるべきではないでしょう。
First, I don't think you shouldn't break up.
でも、どうしても別れたいというのなら、好意がなくなったわけではないことなど
But if it's a case where you want to break up, no matter what, it's not like the good feelings between the two of you have gone away.
自分の気持ちを正直に言うといいのでは、と思います。
I think it's better to say what you actually feel.
いやあ、本当にありがとうございます。
Ah, thank you very much.
私が言いたかったこと全部言ってくださっていて、え、私の仕事を取らないでくださいと、ね。
You took the words right out of my mouth--just please don't take my work, OK?
嬉しい叫びですよ。
It's a scream of happiness!
まあ冗談はさておき、 soushitv 四十四さん、 WanigawaP さん、
OK, all joking aside: soushitv44, WanigawaP,
そのお二方のおっしゃる通りでございます。
It's exactly as those two say.
彼女が寂しく思うのではないかなと、
May it not be that she's feeling lonely?
人の気持ちを最優先に考えられることは非常にいいことです。
It's an incredibly good thing that you think of other people's feelings first.
ですが、それは裏を返せば、保身とも捉えられます。
But if you look at the flipside, it could also be thought of as self-preservation.
厳しい言い方かもしれないですけれども、自分を守っているようにしか聞こえない。
It might come off blunt; but I can only hear you saving yourself.
では、なぜ私はそう感じているのか？
Well, why do I feel this way?
それは、あなたの彼女の口から寂しいという言葉を聞いていないからです。
It's because I haven't heard anything the word "lonely" from your girlfriend's mouth.
堅苦しいことをウダウダ喋るクソ猫だと思われても、私は言います。
Even if I'm thought of as just some lousy cat who just goes on and on with the formalities, but I'm going to say it.
彼女の口から寂しいという言葉が出て来ていない今、あなたの考えはすべて推測に過ぎません。
Right now, [I've] heard nothing about loneliness coming out of your girlfriend's mouth; your thought [process] isn't even going past speculation.
ゆっちゃった、ゆっちゃった。
I said it, I said it.
調子に乗りました、ごめんなさい。
Sorry for getting overly-excited.
それでは簡単なシミュレーションをしてみましょうか。
Well, what do you say we try doing a simple simulation?
あなたの彼女が離れていても寂しくないって言って来たらどうします？
If your girlfriend said she's not lonely even when separated, what would you do?
その瞬間に離れてしまって寂しくなるという理由がなくなります。
At that instant, your reason of "being lonely" is gone.
もしそうなってしまったら、次はあなたが彼女に自分の気持ちを伝える番です。
If that happens, next is your turn to tell your girlfriend what you're feeling.
彼女の気持ちではなくて、自分の気持ちです。
Not your girlfriend's feelings, your feelings.
あなたが今持っているのは、別れたいという気持ちです。
What you have now is a feeling called "wanting to break up."
だったら、それをそのまま伝えるべきです。
If that's so, you should tell her that as it is.
それが筋ってもんですよ。
That's called "not contradicting yourself."
今のままでは、彼女のせいにしてしまっている。
The way it is now, you're putting the blame on her.
たまに私こうやって厳しいことを言いますよ。
Sometimes I say it bluntly like this.
私は結構古い考えの人間、猫なので、男はなよなよするなと。
I'm a man--a cat--with a fairly old way of thinking, men shouldn't be wishy-washy.
いいんですよ、そこでビンタされたって。
It's OK, you just got smacked there, I should say.
歯グッて食いしばって、ごめんと。
Tightly grit your teeth and say sorry.
それに彼女ではなく、自分の方に別れたい理由があるはずです。
Rather than the girlfriend, you're the one who'd better have a reason to want to break up.
他に好きな子ができたから、勉強に集中したいから、
"I've got a new girl," "I want to concentrate on study,"
高校も遠くなっちゃったし君に会うために毎回交通費をかける訳にはいかない、
"(Your) high school is far away and I can't justify spending the transportation costs to see you every time,"
俺は顔が長過ぎるから君に迷惑をかけるかもしれない、
"My face is too long and it might cause you grief,"
俺は女装が趣味だから、いつか君よりかわいくなってしまうかもしれない、
"I like crossdressing, and one of these days I might even be cuter than you,
そんなの耐えられない、
and I can't stand such a thing."
別れたい理由っていうのは必ず自分の方にあるんです。
The reason for breaking up here is definitely yours.

どうも皆様いかがお過ごしでしょうか。

どうも

Thanks; much (thanks), very (sorry), quite (regret); quite, really, mostly; somehow; in spite of oneself, no matter how hard one may try (one is unable to) (with negative verb), no matter how hard one may try not to (one ends up doing) (with positive verb, esp. -shimau); greetings, hello, goodbye

お過ごし

Getting along

皆様

Everyone
今週もやって参りました。

今週

This week

参り

Visit (to a religious site, e.g. shrine, temple, grave)
毎週月曜日配信のABTV ネットワークラジオ、 MC の実は猫も花粉症になる猫犬田実彦です。

実は

As a matter of fact, by the way, to tell you the truth, to be honest, frankly

花粉

Pollen

月曜日

Monday

猫

Cat; shamisen; geisha; wheelbarrow; clay bed-warmer; bottom, submissive partner of a homosexual relationship

毎週

Every week

ラジオ

Radio

配信

Distribution, delivery, transmission, provision

症

Illness

ネットワーク

network
このラジオでは視聴者の皆様から寄せられたお悩みを

者

Person

悩み

Trouble, troubles, worry, distress, sorrows, anguish, agony, problem

ラジオ

Radio

寄せ

Last moves (in go, shogi, or chess), endgame; gathering, collecting, coming together

皆様

Everyone

視聴

Looking and listening, (television) viewing; attention, interest
私、猫犬田実彦がにゃんわりと解決しちゃいます。

解決

Settlement, solution, resolution

猫

Cat; shamisen; geisha; wheelbarrow; clay bed-warmer; bottom, submissive partner of a homosexual relationship

私

I, me
それでは早速、今週のお悩みを紹介しましょう。

紹介

Introduction, presentation, referral, listing

悩み

Trouble, troubles, worry, distress, sorrows, anguish, agony, problem

早速

At once, immediately, without delay, promptly

今週

This week
相談です。

相談

Consultation, discussion
今別れたい彼女がいるんですけど、どうやって別れを切り出せばいいでしょうか？

彼女

She, her; her; girlfriend, sweetheart

別れ

Parting, separation, farewell, (lateral) branch, fork, offshoot, division, section

今

The current ..., this; today''s ..
彼女が別に嫌いなだけでなく、高校が別れたので、

彼女

She, her; her; girlfriend, sweetheart

高校

Senior high school, high school

別に

(not) particularly, nothing; separately, apart

別れ

Parting, separation, farewell, (lateral) branch, fork, offshoot, division, section

嫌い

Dislike, hate; suspicion, tendency, smack (of); distinction, discrimination
向こうが寂しいだろうと思うので別れたいと思うのですが、どうですか？

思う

To think, to consider, to believe; to think (of doing), to plan (to do); to judge, to assess, to regard; to imagine, to suppose, to dream; to expect, to look forward to; to feel, to desire, to want; to recall, to remember

寂しい

Lonely, lonesome, solitary, desolate

別れ

Parting, separation, farewell, (lateral) branch, fork, offshoot, division, section

向こう

Opposite side, other side, opposite direction; over there, that way, far away, beyond; the other party, the other person; future (starting now)
よかったらアドバイス下さい。

アドバイス

Advice

下さい

Please give me; please do for me
実は、このお悩みに対して視聴者の方からアドバイスが寄せられましたので、

方

Direction, way, side, area (in a particular direction); side (of an argument, etc.), one''s part; type, category; field (of study, etc.); indicates one side of a comparison; way, method, manner, means; length (of each side of a square)

者

Person

実は

As a matter of fact, by the way, to tell you the truth, to be honest, frankly

悩み

Trouble, troubles, worry, distress, sorrows, anguish, agony, problem

アドバイス

Advice

寄せ

Last moves (in go, shogi, or chess), endgame; gathering, collecting, coming together

に対して

Towards, against, regarding, in contrast with

視聴

Looking and listening, (television) viewing; attention, interest
ご紹介させていただきます。

紹介

Introduction, presentation, referral, listing
寂しくなるなら、今まで以上に愛してあげればいいんですよ。

以上

Not less than, ... and more, ... and upwards; beyond ... (e.g. one''s means), further (e.g. nothing further to say), more than ... (e.g. cannot pay more than that); above-mentioned, foregoing; since ..., seeing that ..; this is all, that is the end, the end

今

The current ..., this; today''s ..

愛し

Lovely, beloved, sweet, adorable
それに、あっちが寂しがってるのかな？
寂しがってないのなら、それは自分の自己満ですよ。

自己

Self, oneself

自分

Myself, yourself, oneself, himself, herself; i, me; you

満

Full (years, etc.); whole, all; fully enough, not lacking; manchuria
なるほど、それではもう一方紹介しましょう。

紹介

Introduction, presentation, referral, listing

一方

One (esp. of two), the other, one way, the other way, one direction, the other direction, one side, the other side, one party, the other party; on the one hand, on the other hand; whereas, although, but at the same time, meanwhile, in turn; just keeps, being inclined to ..., tending to be ..., tending to do ..., continuously ..., just keeps on ...ing, only
寂しいと思っているかもしれないと思えるということは、

寂しい

Lonely, lonesome, solitary, desolate

思える

To seem, to appear likely
あなたがその女性のことを大事に思っている証拠ではないでしょうか。

女性

Woman, female; feminine gender

大事

Important, valuable, serious matter

証拠

Evidence, proof
まず別れるべきではないでしょう。

別れる

To be divided, to part from, to separate (usu. for people), to bid farewell
でも、どうしても別れたいというのなら、好意がなくなったわけではないことなど

別れ

Parting, separation, farewell, (lateral) branch, fork, offshoot, division, section

好意

Good will, favor, favour, courtesy
自分の気持ちを正直に言うといいのでは、と思います。

気持ち

Feeling, sensation, mood; preparedness, readiness, attitude; thanks, solicitude, sympathy; just a little, somewhat, slightly

正直

Honesty, integrity, frankness; honestly, frankly

言う

To say, to utter, to declare; to name, to call; to go (e.g. "the alarm went ping"), to make a noise

自分

Myself, yourself, oneself, himself, herself; i, me; you

思い

Thought; imagination, mind, heart; desire, wish, hope, expectation; love, affection; feelings, emotion, sentiment, experience
いやあ、本当にありがとうございます。

本当に

Really, truly
私が言いたかったこと全部言ってくださっていて、え、私の仕事を取らないでくださいと、ね。

仕事

Work, job, business, occupation, employment, vocation, task; work

全部

All, entire, whole, altogether

私

I, me
嬉しい叫びですよ。

嬉しい

Happy, glad, pleasant

叫び

Shout, scream, outcry
まあ冗談はさておき、 soushitv 四十四さん、 WanigawaP さん、

四

Four

十

Ten

冗談

Jest, joke, funny story
そのお二方のおっしゃる通りでございます。

方

Direction, way, side, area (in a particular direction); side (of an argument, etc.), one''s part; type, category; field (of study, etc.); indicates one side of a comparison; way, method, manner, means; length (of each side of a square)

通り

In accordance with ..., following ..; roughly, about; .. street, .. avenue

二

Two
彼女が寂しく思うのではないかなと、

思う

To think, to consider, to believe; to think (of doing), to plan (to do); to judge, to assess, to regard; to imagine, to suppose, to dream; to expect, to look forward to; to feel, to desire, to want; to recall, to remember

彼女

She, her; her; girlfriend, sweetheart
人の気持ちを最優先に考えられることは非常にいいことです。

気持ち

Feeling, sensation, mood; preparedness, readiness, attitude; thanks, solicitude, sympathy; just a little, somewhat, slightly

非常

Emergency; extraordinary, unusual

考え

Thinking, thought, view, opinion, concept; idea, notion, imagination; intention, plan, design; consideration, judgement, deliberation, reflection; wish, hope, expectation

人

Person

最

The most, the extreme; prime, conspicuous

優先

Preference, priority, precedence
ですが、それは裏を返せば、保身とも捉えられます。

裏

Bottom (or another side that is hidden from view), undersurface, opposite side, reverse side; rear, back, behind (the house); lining, inside; out of sight, behind the scenes; proof; opposite (of a prediction, common sense, etc.); inverse (of a hypothesis, etc.); bottom (of an inning), last half (of an inning)

保身

self-protection
厳しい言い方かもしれないですけれども、自分を守っているようにしか聞こえない。

厳しい

Severe, strict, rigid, unsparing, relentless; stern, austere, grave, solemn, majestic; intense (cold), harsh

自分

Myself, yourself, oneself, himself, herself; i, me; you

聞こえ

Reputation, fame, renown

言い方

Way of talking, speaking style
では、なぜ私はそう感じているのか？

感じ

Feeling, sense, impression

私

I, me
それは、あなたの彼女の口から寂しいという言葉を聞いていないからです。

彼女

She, her; her; girlfriend, sweetheart

寂しい

Lonely, lonesome, solitary, desolate

口

Mouth, speech; counter for people or implements

言葉

Language, dialect; word, words, phrase, term, expression, remark; speech, (manner of) speaking
堅苦しいことをウダウダ喋るクソ猫だと思われても、私は言います。

猫

Cat; shamisen; geisha; wheelbarrow; clay bed-warmer; bottom, submissive partner of a homosexual relationship

私

I, me

喋る

To talk, to chat, to chatter

堅苦しい

Formal, strict, ceremonious, stiff
彼女の口から寂しいという言葉が出て来ていない今、あなたの考えはすべて推測に過ぎません。

彼女

She, her; her; girlfriend, sweetheart

寂しい

Lonely, lonesome, solitary, desolate

来

Next (year, etc.); since (last month, etc.)

考え

Thinking, thought, view, opinion, concept; idea, notion, imagination; intention, plan, design; consideration, judgement, deliberation, reflection; wish, hope, expectation

推測

Guess, conjecture

過ぎ

Past, after; too (much), over (e.g. eating)

今

The current ..., this; today''s ..

口

Mouth, speech; counter for people or implements

言葉

Language, dialect; word, words, phrase, term, expression, remark; speech, (manner of) speaking

出

Coming out, emerging; being born into (a certain family), being a native of (a particular place)
ゆっちゃった、ゆっちゃった。
調子に乗りました、ごめんなさい。

調子

Tune, tone, key, pitch, time, rhythm; vein, mood, way, manner, style, knack; condition, state of health; impetus, spur of the moment, strain; trend

乗り

Riding, ride; spread (of paints); (two)-seater; mood (as in to pick up on and join in with someone''s mood), rhythm, feeling
それでは簡単なシミュレーションをしてみましょうか。

簡単

Simple, easy, uncomplicated; brief, quick, light

シミュレーション

simulation
あなたの彼女が離れていても寂しくないって言って来たらどうします？

彼女

She, her; her; girlfriend, sweetheart

来

Next (year, etc.); since (last month, etc.)

離れ

Separation from, loss of interest in, independence of, distancing (of oneself) from, disillusionment with, alienation from (something); detached (dwelling, room)
その瞬間に離れてしまって寂しくなるという理由がなくなります。

理由

Reason, pretext, motive

瞬間

Moment, second, instant

離れ

Separation from, loss of interest in, independence of, distancing (of oneself) from, disillusionment with, alienation from (something); detached (dwelling, room)
もしそうなってしまったら、次はあなたが彼女に自分の気持ちを伝える番です。

彼女

She, her; her; girlfriend, sweetheart

気持ち

Feeling, sensation, mood; preparedness, readiness, attitude; thanks, solicitude, sympathy; just a little, somewhat, slightly

伝える

To convey, to report, to transmit, to communicate, to tell, to impart, to propagate, to teach, to bequeath

自分

Myself, yourself, oneself, himself, herself; i, me; you

次

Next, following, subsequent; stage, station

番

Number (in a series); (one''s) turn; watch, guard, lookout; bout, match
彼女の気持ちではなくて、自分の気持ちです。

彼女

She, her; her; girlfriend, sweetheart

気持ち

Feeling, sensation, mood; preparedness, readiness, attitude; thanks, solicitude, sympathy; just a little, somewhat, slightly

自分

Myself, yourself, oneself, himself, herself; i, me; you
あなたが今持っているのは、別れたいという気持ちです。

気持ち

Feeling, sensation, mood; preparedness, readiness, attitude; thanks, solicitude, sympathy; just a little, somewhat, slightly

別れ

Parting, separation, farewell, (lateral) branch, fork, offshoot, division, section

今

The current ..., this; today''s ..
だったら、それをそのまま伝えるべきです。

伝える

To convey, to report, to transmit, to communicate, to tell, to impart, to propagate, to teach, to bequeath
それが筋ってもんですよ。

筋

Muscle
今のままでは、彼女のせいにしてしまっている。

彼女

She, her; her; girlfriend, sweetheart

今

The current ..., this; today''s ..
たまに私こうやって厳しいことを言いますよ。

厳しい

Severe, strict, rigid, unsparing, relentless; stern, austere, grave, solemn, majestic; intense (cold), harsh

私

I, me
私は結構古い考えの人間、猫なので、男はなよなよするなと。

人間

Human being, person, man, mankind, humankind; character (of a person)

考え

Thinking, thought, view, opinion, concept; idea, notion, imagination; intention, plan, design; consideration, judgement, deliberation, reflection; wish, hope, expectation

男

Man, male; fellow, guy, chap, bloke; male lover, boyfriend, man; manliness, manly honor, manly honour, manly reputation

結構

Splendid, nice, wonderful, delicious, sweet; sufficient, fine (in the sense of "i''m fine"), (by implication) no thank you; well enough, ok, tolerable; reasonably, fairly, tolerably; construction, architecture

猫

Cat; shamisen; geisha; wheelbarrow; clay bed-warmer; bottom, submissive partner of a homosexual relationship

古い

Old (not person), aged, ancient, antiquated, stale, threadbare, outmoded, obsolete article

私

I, me

なよなよ

delicately, weakly, gently, supplely
いいんですよ、そこでビンタされたって。
歯グッて食いしばって、ごめんと。

歯

Tooth
それに彼女ではなく、自分の方に別れたい理由があるはずです。

彼女

She, her; her; girlfriend, sweetheart

理由

Reason, pretext, motive

方

Direction, way, side, area (in a particular direction); side (of an argument, etc.), one''s part; type, category; field (of study, etc.); indicates one side of a comparison; way, method, manner, means; length (of each side of a square)

別れ

Parting, separation, farewell, (lateral) branch, fork, offshoot, division, section

自分

Myself, yourself, oneself, himself, herself; i, me; you
他に好きな子ができたから、勉強に集中したいから、

子

First sign of chinese zodiac (the rat, 11pm-1am, north, november)

勉強

Study; diligence; discount, reduction

他

Other (place, thing, person), the rest; outside, beyond; nothing except, nothing but, nothing apart from, nothing aside from, no choice (but to); besides..., in addition to..

集中

Concentration, convergence, centralization, integration, gathering together

好き

-phil, -phile, enthusiast (for), love (of); being attractive (to), to tend to be liked (by)
高校も遠くなっちゃったし君に会うために毎回交通費をかける訳にはいかない、

君

Mr (junior), master, boy

高校

Senior high school, high school

交通

Traffic, transportation, communication, exchange (of ideas, etc.), intercourse

遠く

Far away, distant, at a distance, distant place, by far

訳

Conclusion from reasoning, judgement or calculation based on something read or heard, reason, cause, meaning, circumstances, situation

会う

To meet, to encounter, to see; to have an accident, to have a bad experience

費

Cost, expense

毎回

Every time, each round
俺は顔が長過ぎるから君に迷惑をかけるかもしれない、

君

Mr (junior), master, boy

過ぎる

To go by, to cross, to pass by, to float across

迷惑

Trouble, bother, annoyance

長

Head, chief, leader, elder; merit, strong point; superiority; major

俺

I, me

顔

Face, visage; look, expression, countenance; honor, honour, face; influence, notoriety
俺は女装が趣味だから、いつか君よりかわいくなってしまうかもしれない、

君

Mr (junior), master, boy

趣味

Hobby, pastime; tastes, preference, liking

俺

I, me

女装

female clothing, wearing female clothing, cross dressing (for a man)
そんなの耐えられない、

そんな

Such (about the actions of the listener, or about ideas expressed or understood by the listener), like that, that sort of
別れたい理由っていうのは必ず自分の方にあるんです。