人には添うてみよ馬には乗ってみよ

ひとにはそうてみようまにはのってみよ

you can't judge someone until you've spent time with them; you can't judge something until you've tried it; judge a man by living with him, and try a horse by riding him

人には添うて見よ馬には乗って見よ

ひとにはそうてみようまにはのってみよ

you can't judge someone until you've spent time with them, just like you can't judge a horse until you've ridden it

ようによっては

depending on the way...; depending on how...; according to how...

見方によっては

みかたによっては

depending on one's point of view

はにかみ

bashfulness; shyness; (showing signs of) embarrassment

にあっては

にあって

in, on, at, during, in the condition of

にしては

for (e.g. "she dances well for an eight-year old"), considering it's (something or someone)

はにかみ屋

はにかみや

bashful person, very shy person

馬に乗るまでは牛に乗れ

うまにのるまではうしにのれ

learn to crawl before you learn to walk; until you ride a horse, ride a cow

例によって

れいによって

as usual, as is one's habit

事によって

ことによって

via, through, by doing, by means of, using

事と次第によっては

こととしだいによっては

according to the circumstances; depending on how things go; if the occasion requires

に当たっては

にあたっては

when it comes to; concerning

には

には

for (in regard to), in order to

にかけては

にかけては

when it comes to, concerning (an area of expertise)

馬に乗る

うまにのる

to get on a horse, to mount a horse

好みにより

このみにより

depending on one's preference

人並みに

ひとなみに

like others, as much as anyone else

はてはて

huh; well!; my, my; I'll be damned